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Please Don't Help My Kids

A Patch blogger's post about not helping her children on the slide is being debated across the country.

 

A Patch blog from Alameda, CA, called “Please Don’t Help My Kids” has struck a nerve with readers across the country.

Posted in September, the blog has taken off over the past couple of weeks as it has found a second life through social media sharing. The blog has 124,000 Facebook recommendations and 833 people have tweeted the blog.

The blog is an open letter to other parents at the playground. The blogger Kate Bassford Baker’s basic request is for parents to not help her daughters on the slide. She wrote that she wants her daughters to do things and learn things on their own.

Learning to walk up the slide’s ladder is the first step to learning new things and overcoming obstacles, she wrote.

“Because, as they grow up, the ladders will only get taller, and scarier, and much more difficult to climb. And I don't know about you, but I'd rather help them learn the skills they'll need to navigate them now, while a misstep means a bumped head or scraped knee that can be healed with a kiss, while the most difficult of hills can be conquered by chanting, ‘I think I can, I think I can,’ and while those 15 whole feet between us still feels, to them, like I'm much too far away,” she wrote.

Read "Please Don’t Help My Kids" by clicking on this sentence.

What do you think? Do you agree with the concept that children should do these things on their own or do you think it’s unwise to allow children that freedom?

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Denise Patrick

11:14 am on Thursday, January 24, 2013

There should be more like her. These handholding parents make me sick.

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TBH

11:14 am on Thursday, January 24, 2013

At the risk of taking this too literally, I think she is over thinking simple playground safety and reading far too much into fellow parents looking out for each other and their children.

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IDC

12:15 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

Who cares!! What is this on my local patch?

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Samantha McGarry

12:31 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

I agree. She gets my vote. I watch my kids at the playground from a distance (close enough to sprint if there's a real need) but far away enough so they can maneuver, be challenged, succeed - and wear themselves out!

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MCREMvonStauffenfritzpellmell

12:52 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

I don't think anybody should assume that they have any business intervening in any way with somebody else's kids--especially if that intervention includes physical contact. No way! But I also agree with IDC--this is a silly non-story, apparently being exploited by Patch (all those statistics about Facebook and tweets...) to remind us about the place of Patch in the world. Right now, it seems to me The Patch is also on a sort of slide. It has such promise, and yet, it also has such murky ties to advertising, such ambiguous rules so inconsistently applied, such uncertainty as to what it really is. If my critique is a kind of lift, as I intend it, then you're welcome!

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PREDATOR

12:59 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

Upset The Patch isn't a Commie Utopia....yet?

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MCREMvonStauffenfritzpellmell

1:41 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

If there were a known predator in the playground, I would not let my child in there at all.

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aycaramba

1:47 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

Hey Predator--why the personal attacks?? Haven't you read the the rules? nasty piece of work...

Charlie Schnapps

1:16 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

This woman's blog is a breath of fresh air and I hope most parents see things her way - though I fear they do not. Re: why this is on Patch, I appreciate my attention being drawn to things that might interest me. No, this blogger is not from my state nevermind my town but she brings up points that i think we parents can all relate to. Like any other website i visit, i am free on Patch to click on what interests me and ignore what doesn't. So are you.

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PREDATOR

1:37 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

Could not have said it better myself.....but what you are forgetting is that there is a portion of our society that needs to be told everything. Don't smoke, turn your lights off when you leave the room, wash your hands....etc....so being able to avoid what they don't find interesting is beyond their abilities.....unless they are told to do so.

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Charlie Schnapps

4:20 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

I don't know if this comment will show up in the right order but it's meant to be a response to Predator's response to me. Predator, a disclaimer: I don't want to argue with you, largely because your name kind of frightens me, but I don't really know what your point is. Sure, part of society is lemming-like...but I don't understand how that relates to Patch publishing an interesting story highlighting a parenting issue that many seem to feel strongly about. Using your logic, a news/information website's responsibility is to expose readers to....only things that you think they should be exposed to? Who is the judge of that? Puzzled. (have a nice day!)

Shannon Pataky

1:32 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

I don't know about this. My children are very independent, and in my belief, they choose to be. if they want help getting up the slide, they'll ask for it. Hidden important lesson 1. Know when to ask for help. Also, as long as my child either knows they other parent or has me close enough to give the approving nod, this is a random act of kindness. Hidden important lesson 2. Helping people for no reason that benefits you is what makes you a kind person. I think this women is denying her child other experiences in order to make her achieve a goal that the child isn't all that interested in achieving, because my kids would politely say "no thank you, I can do it myself" if they where confident enough to do it.

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Tree Hugger

4:01 pm on Thursday, January 24, 2013

The Precious Little Snowflake/Instant Gratification/Entitled Generation will be the downfall of America.

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Mark Cain

7:25 am on Friday, January 25, 2013

Leave her alone, she will be in combat soon and needs to learn these things on her own.

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